Overcoming Co-dependency

Over the years, the word 'co-dependency' has become used to describe so many different relationship problems that today the term isn't often very helpful.

The original meaning of the word was used to describe a person who was dependent on another person having problems so that they could feel  'needed', 'valued' 'significant' and 'worthy' through 'fixing' and 'rescuing' them.  

But Co-dependency isn't really about other people - it's about -  disconnection from ourselves.

So if you: 

find it difficult to say no and put in boundaries in your relationships

are  the person that people always come to  for help and advice

are more concerned about the needs and feelings of others than you are about your own

often feel responsible for other people’s happiness

​find yourself excessively worrying about other people’s problems and trying to solve them

struggle with excessive feelings of guilt and anxiety around relationships

find it difficult to maintain a sense of individuality in relationships

the chances are you are struggling with co-dependency

In schema terms, co-dependency is best illustrated by the self-sacrifice schema and if you would like to hear more about this,  there is a fantastic FREE online event in which myself and 26 other authors, doctors, therapists and relationship experts talk about what co-dependency actually is and how to overcome it.

Sign up here to get your free pass to the event which runs from June 25th - July 1st. 

I really enjoyed my interview with the host Ande Anderson - she was a great interviewer!

you can listen to my interview about schemas, the brain and co-dependency on day 5 - 29th June.

I really hope you get a lot out of the conference!