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Schemas are deeply ingrained emotional patterns that repeat throughout our lives sabotaging our attempts to reach our goals, dreams and live a fulfilling life. Identifying and reducing your schemas is the key to achieving lasting change.

  • 18 Schemas
    • 1 – 9
      • Emotional Deprivation
      • Abandonment
      • Mistrust & Abuse
      • Social Isolation
      • Defectiveness & Shame
      • Failure To Achieve
      • Dependency & Incompetence
      • Vulnerability to Harm
      • Enmeshment
    • 10 – 18
      • Subjugation
      • Self-Sacrifice
      • Emotional Inhibition
      • Unrelenting Standards
      • Entitlement & Grandiosity
      • Insufficient Limits & Self-Control
      • Approval Seeking
      • Negativity & Pessimism
      • Punitiveness
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How do you learn to TRUST?

how to trust


It's now becoming increasingly apparent that our ability to form deep connections with others is at the heart of sound psychological, emotional AND physical well-being.

Research shows that the quality of our intimate and social relationships is the biggest predictor of health and happiness throughout our lifespan.

But for many of us, making connections is not easy. 

If we have suffered relational trauma, such as sexual, physical  or emotional abuse / neglect, we can carry throughout life, a deep mistrust of not only others, but also of our own ability to navigate relationships.

Our nervous system and certain brain parts become WIRED in a way that makes it difficult to accurately predict threat / safety in relationships.

'Trusting' is often a luxury that we just do not have.

We can also feel 'unsafe' in the world at a deep core level of our being.

But there is hope!

Recent research from the fields of neuroscience and trauma indicates that we can actually 're-wire' or 're-train' our brain to more accurately predict where we should place our trust. 

We can also work with our brain and nervous system to develop an internal sense of safety that has never been available to us.  

We can learn to effectively manage and process the difficult feelings that inevitably arise within relationships so that we can TRUST OURSELVES to deal with whatever comes our way.

This is empowerment. This is freedom.

If you want to know more about how you can learn to trust yourself - so you can trust others - why not join me and 20 other experts from around the world as we speak about how to identify and transform the ways in which we operate in relationships.

In this FREE online conference,  you will get one interview every day for over 20 days!

The conference starts on February 18th 2019 - click here to save your seat. 

You’ll experience influencers in psychology, neuroscience, psychobiology, epigenetics,
LGBTQ, somatic healing, addiction (and more) provide ideas, & tips on how to live from a place of safety, security, passion & connection.

The conference is hosted by Cheryl Fidelman, life coach & performance artist. 

Trust Yourself Online Conference

The information in this conference will set you on a path to greater happiness and well being in all areas of your life.  

And it's FREE!

Don't let this opportunity pass you by. Click here to find out more.

How We Change


Research shows that the chances of making any kind of significant change in our lives are just 9:1 - even if we're facing a life threatening disease.  That's a lot of unrealised goals and broken dreams!

So why is it so hard to change? 

Why do we fail time and time and time again to do the things we KNOW will make our lives better?

Well, here's the thing, the part of our brain that is responsible for achieving our dreams and goals is very much affected by the childhoods that we have.  We need certain conditions in childhood to build a brain that can push through fear, self doubt and frustration - the main things that derail us on our paths to change.

But there is hope! our brains are always changing - and if you know what you need to do to build an effective brain, your chances of success are way better.

Check out the video below on How We Change - video # 3 in my 3-part video series

 Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

If you haven't watched Video # 1 and Video # 2- make sure you watch those first.

Amendment: Pricing structure of the online programme has now changed from a one off payment to monthly membership of $49 US per month.

If you're  interested in the online programme mentioned in the video click here for more details.

or you might want to join our free face-book group Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

When the Past isn’t Past

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"Just get over it"  "It's all in the past" " Just let go" " Just move on" 

"That was then - this is now"

We hear comments like this a lot. No matter what has happened to us in the past, we are often expected to be able to leave the past well and truly in the past and just 'get on with life'.

But what if it isn't really that simple?

Groundbreaking research into the long term effects of childhood adversity, shows that the way we are raised and the quality of our childhood environment  actually shapes the way our brain develops and functions.

Many of the issues we struggle with today - addictions, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and problems in relationships are often due to what we have experienced in the past. 

Find out more in my second video from the 3-part video series: 

​Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

Video # 2 When the Past isn't Past

In this video, you'll learn about the main causes of anxiety and depression and why some people get addicted while others don't. You'll also learn about our two brains and how conflict between them contributes to self sabotage and procrastination. 

Before watching video # 2, make sure you have seen video # 1.

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD VIDEO # 2 WORKSHEET

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I would love to hear your thoughts on the content of this video, so please feel free to leave comments below.

Video # 3 in the series will be posted on the blog section of schema therapy online in the coming few days.

In the meantime, why not join our free face book group 'Breaking the Patterns from the Past'

How To Deal With Overwhelming Emotions

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One of the most important skills we can master in life is the ability to manage our emotions and feelings.

The inability to manage and process emotions effectively is at the heart of the majority of mental health issues we face today.  

Anxiety and depression happen when we get 'stuck' in high or low emotional states.

Addictions take hold when we rely exclusively on external sources to change the way we feel. ​

Over-eating becomes a problem when we use food to 'stuff our feelings down' because other options don't seem to be available to us. 

If we want happy, successful relationships and true emotional intimacy, we need to be able to express our feelings - no matter how scary - and also be able to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of others.

If we want to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, we need to be able to push through a range of uncomfortable emotions - fear, anxiety, self doubt, guilt, frustration and perhaps shame - to get where we want to be in life. 

But learning to deal with emotions and feelings effectively is not something we can learn overnight. Quite often, our brains have developed in ways that make it biologically very difficult to manage emotional states.

If you want to learn a little more about this, check out my video below  on "Dealing with overwhelming emotions" 


If you found this video interesting, or you struggle to manage your emotions, why not have a look through our schema pages or join our free face book group. Breaking the Patterns from the Past. 

Our new online programme to heal the patterns from the past launches on Monday 14th May so if this is something that you might be interested in click here for more details

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the information in the video, so please feel free to leave a comment below.


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