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Schemas are deeply ingrained emotional patterns that repeat throughout our lives sabotaging our attempts to reach our goals, dreams and live a fulfilling life. Identifying and reducing your schemas is the key to achieving lasting change.

  • 18 Schemas
    • 1 – 9
      • Emotional Deprivation
      • Abandonment
      • Mistrust & Abuse
      • Social Isolation
      • Defectiveness & Shame
      • Failure To Achieve
      • Dependency & Incompetence
      • Vulnerability to Harm
      • Enmeshment
    • 10 – 18
      • Subjugation
      • Self-Sacrifice
      • Emotional Inhibition
      • Unrelenting Standards
      • Entitlement & Grandiosity
      • Insufficient Limits & Self-Control
      • Approval Seeking
      • Negativity & Pessimism
      • Punitiveness
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The Art of Listening

The way we listen to someone has a profound effect on their physiological state. We have the ability to either 'regulate' someone'e nervous system or 'dysregulate' it.

If you want to find out more about this, listen to the interview I did with Cheryl Fidelman, The Trauma & Codependence Coach and the founder of The Conscious Codependent Collective

I had a wonderful time participating in this FREE series as one of 10 experts from around the world in the fields of psychology & neuroscience who are exploring how relational patterns, unhealed trauma, childhood & cultural programming can powerfully impact the way that we LISTEN.

In this free Conscious Codependent Series, you will receive specific tools, inspiration & encouragement to bring you back to the YOU that you were designed to be – it’s your birthright.

Cheryl Fidelman,  hosts this summit and brings us through a journey that points to how & why unhealed trauma can shape how we LISTEN and that how we LISTEN can shape our entire experience of life.  

The Conscious Codependent Series: TRANSFORM the Way That You LISTEN & Be Who You Are Designed to BE.

https://christine.theconsciouscodependentseries.com/

Cheryl has dedicated her work to helping to identify that which has a hold on our choices, decisions, relational dynamics and, ultimately, our free will. There’s a pure self we know is in there, some of us remember that version of ourselves vividly. In her vision, this series is the beginning of a curiosity movement. Should we become masters at self – curiosity, being curious about how we filter life through our LISTENING, we can potentially return to our pure, safe, wonderous, colorful selves.

 The Conscious Codependent Series highlights my work as well as the work of 10 experts from around the world who are dedicated to the development and healing of the human condition.

Please click the link below and be taken on a journey of free video interviews that will provide you with insight, encourage and tools to help you intuitively create boundaries, identify your automatic reactions and be passionately engaged in what you know you are alive to do and be!

Click Here to sign up

How do you learn to TRUST?

how to trust


It's now becoming increasingly apparent that our ability to form deep connections with others is at the heart of sound psychological, emotional AND physical well-being.

Research shows that the quality of our intimate and social relationships is the biggest predictor of health and happiness throughout our lifespan.

But for many of us, making connections is not easy. 

If we have suffered relational trauma, such as sexual, physical  or emotional abuse / neglect, we can carry throughout life, a deep mistrust of not only others, but also of our own ability to navigate relationships.

Our nervous system and certain brain parts become WIRED in a way that makes it difficult to accurately predict threat / safety in relationships.

'Trusting' is often a luxury that we just do not have.

We can also feel 'unsafe' in the world at a deep core level of our being.

But there is hope!

Recent research from the fields of neuroscience and trauma indicates that we can actually 're-wire' or 're-train' our brain to more accurately predict where we should place our trust. 

We can also work with our brain and nervous system to develop an internal sense of safety that has never been available to us.  

We can learn to effectively manage and process the difficult feelings that inevitably arise within relationships so that we can TRUST OURSELVES to deal with whatever comes our way.

This is empowerment. This is freedom.

If you want to know more about how you can learn to trust yourself - so you can trust others - why not join me and 20 other experts from around the world as we speak about how to identify and transform the ways in which we operate in relationships.

In this FREE online conference,  you will get one interview every day for over 20 days!

The conference starts on February 18th 2019 - click here to save your seat. 

You’ll experience influencers in psychology, neuroscience, psychobiology, epigenetics,
LGBTQ, somatic healing, addiction (and more) provide ideas, & tips on how to live from a place of safety, security, passion & connection.

The conference is hosted by Cheryl Fidelman, life coach & performance artist. 

Trust Yourself Online Conference

The information in this conference will set you on a path to greater happiness and well being in all areas of your life.  

And it's FREE!

Don't let this opportunity pass you by. Click here to find out more.

Overcoming Co-dependency


Free Online Conference - Overcoming Codependency June 25th - July 1st

Over the years, the word 'co-dependency' has become used to describe so many different relationship problems that today the term isn't often very helpful.

The original meaning of the word was used to describe a person who was dependent on another person having problems so that they could feel  'needed', 'valued' 'significant' and 'worthy' through 'fixing' and 'rescuing' them.  

But Co-dependency isn't really about other people - it's about -  disconnection from ourselves.

So if you: 

find it difficult to say no and put in boundaries in your relationships

are  the person that people always come to  for help and advice

are more concerned about the needs and feelings of others than you are about your own

often feel responsible for other people’s happiness

​find yourself excessively worrying about other people’s problems and trying to solve them

struggle with excessive feelings of guilt and anxiety around relationships

find it difficult to maintain a sense of individuality in relationships

the chances are you are struggling with co-dependency

In schema terms, co-dependency is best illustrated by the self-sacrifice schema and if you would like to hear more about this,  there is a fantastic FREE online event in which myself and 26 other authors, doctors, therapists and relationship experts talk about what co-dependency actually is and how to overcome it.

Sign up here to get your free pass to the event which runs from June 25th - July 1st. 

I really enjoyed my interview with the host Ande Anderson - she was a great interviewer!

you can listen to my interview about schemas, the brain and co-dependency on day 5 - 29th June.

I really hope you get a lot out of the conference!

How We Change


Research shows that the chances of making any kind of significant change in our lives are just 9:1 - even if we're facing a life threatening disease.  That's a lot of unrealised goals and broken dreams!

So why is it so hard to change? 

Why do we fail time and time and time again to do the things we KNOW will make our lives better?

Well, here's the thing, the part of our brain that is responsible for achieving our dreams and goals is very much affected by the childhoods that we have.  We need certain conditions in childhood to build a brain that can push through fear, self doubt and frustration - the main things that derail us on our paths to change.

But there is hope! our brains are always changing - and if you know what you need to do to build an effective brain, your chances of success are way better.

Check out the video below on How We Change - video # 3 in my 3-part video series

 Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

If you haven't watched Video # 1 and Video # 2- make sure you watch those first.

Amendment: Pricing structure of the online programme has now changed from a one off payment to monthly membership of $49 US per month.

If you're  interested in the online programme mentioned in the video click here for more details.

or you might want to join our free face-book group Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

When the Past isn’t Past

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"Just get over it"  "It's all in the past" " Just let go" " Just move on" 

"That was then - this is now"

We hear comments like this a lot. No matter what has happened to us in the past, we are often expected to be able to leave the past well and truly in the past and just 'get on with life'.

But what if it isn't really that simple?

Groundbreaking research into the long term effects of childhood adversity, shows that the way we are raised and the quality of our childhood environment  actually shapes the way our brain develops and functions.

Many of the issues we struggle with today - addictions, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and problems in relationships are often due to what we have experienced in the past. 

Find out more in my second video from the 3-part video series: 

​Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

Video # 2 When the Past isn't Past

In this video, you'll learn about the main causes of anxiety and depression and why some people get addicted while others don't. You'll also learn about our two brains and how conflict between them contributes to self sabotage and procrastination. 

Before watching video # 2, make sure you have seen video # 1.

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD VIDEO # 2 WORKSHEET

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I would love to hear your thoughts on the content of this video, so please feel free to leave comments below.

Video # 3 in the series will be posted on the blog section of schema therapy online in the coming few days.

In the meantime, why not join our free face book group 'Breaking the Patterns from the Past'

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